You know that gut feeling that tells you something isn’t right? Start
listening to it. Too often we dismiss our brain’s way of protecting ourselves
in order to remain polite, non-confrontational or for other various reasons,
including fear.
Ask yourself what is causing you
to feel scared, angry,
resentful, upset, etc. If you can pin point a particular situation, person or
issue involved, you’re closer than most people.
Like many things, getting harassed or bullied is subjective – based on your
own point of view. Ultimately, if you feel like you’re being bullied, than you
are. If you don’t feel good about an interaction – no matter who is involved –
and yes that includes friends, family members and other trusted
individuals, than you should reassess your relationships with them. You
don’t want to ultimately endure through weeks, months, and even years of
abuse only to assess then.
In case you still might not know, common signs of being harassed or bullied
include:
- Physical trauma – have bruises, cuts, bumps, etc from another that
were not by accident, from a sport, and/or you did not consent to? Are
they touching you simply and you have asked them to stop and they
continue? - Emotional trauma – is someone stating hurtful comments to you? Are
they ignoring you? Dismissing your feelings or point of view?
Shunning you from others? Spreading rumors, lies or attacking your
reputation? Screaming at you? - Sexual trauma – Are they saying inappropriate sexual comments? Are
you you getting touched inappropriately without permission? - Proximity – are they too close for comfort? Are they invading your
personal boundaries? - Online abuse – Are you getting spoken badly about online? Is your
intimate information or web cam personal details getting spread to
others? - Do you feel bad around another without explanation?
Let’s solve all of these and more, effectively through Brāv .